The great gift of a spiritual path is coming to trust that you can find a way to true refuge. You realize that you can start right where you are, in the midst of your life, and find peace in any circumstance. Even at those moments when the ground shakes terribly beneath you—when there’s a loss that will alter your life forever—you can still trust that you will find your way home. This is possible because you’ve touched the timeless love and awareness that are intrinsic to who you are…….Tara Brach
walking through those dark doors finds our hearts deeper in shadow than we could ever understand……this is the sincere and holy ground of grace……faith cannot hold us…..only divine ground can center us…..may we know peace here…..
This week I had a chance to consider letting go in a new light. I’ve written before about how I rarely find the admonishment to “let go” helpful when I’m hanging on by my finger tips, even when I can see that what I am hanging on to is not particularly useful. I have found the inner directive to “let it be” somewhat more fruitful in helping me loosen a desperate grasp and rest in what is.
Letting go of beliefs or mental/emotional preoccupations that are causing suffering isn’t so much an intellectual decision (oh that it was- most of us can see when it’s not doing us any good!) If we believe it is we’ll probably bury what we think we “should” let go of in our unconscious- and that only makes matters worse. Now we’re hanging on, but we aren’t consciously aware of hanging, so how could we possibly let go? Not a step in the right direction. What might help us find a supported position emotionally or mentally from which we could more easily and deeply let go of preoccupations that are causing us suffering?
The first things that came to my mind were tenderness and mercy. When I slip into the feeling of tenderness, of holding my own or others’ thoughts or emotions without judgement but with a sense of real caring, I am more comfortable with whatever arises- and I can let go of those thoughts or emotions more easily, allow them to rise and fall, to appear and pass away. It is, strangely, the very act of judging and tightening against what arises that makes it hard to let go.
We often think that trying harder will get us where we want to go. And sometimes, it does. But in the letting-go-endeavours- whether physical, mental or emotional- finding an inner or outer place where we can rest comfortably with what is, is much more likely to help us truly let go where we may have been unintentionally holding on……Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Grace strikes us when we are in great pain and restlessness. It strikes us when our disgust for our own being, our weakness, our hostility, and our lack of direction and composure have become intolerable to us. It strikes us when, year after year, the longed-for perfection of life does not appear, when the old compulsions reign with us as they have for decades. Sometimes at that moment a wave of light breaks into our darkness, and it is as though a voice were saying, “You are accepted”….Paul Tillich