Perhaps the greatest irony of healing is that it occurs when we accept our felt experience, rather than rely on willpower or focused effort to get rid of the unwanted. When our felt experience clashes with our self-concept, rather than update our self-concept so that it accounts for our authentic experience, we often respond by suppressing any feelings that contradict our views of how we need to appear if we are to achieve success and acceptance from others. When we do that, the anxiety only grows worse. The solution is to develop anxiety tolerance- to learn how to observe and hold our felt experience, which involves the ability to greet and observe our most uncomfortable and inconvenient feelings wit “unconditional friendliness.” This kind of mindfulness means we can provide a safe container for our fear and soften it into a manageable state. ~Josh Korda
this anxiety goes on and on and we suffer on and on until….
inquiry for today~ lean in and give yourself a little space to feel……don’t push….linger….
As long as we live in this world we are bound to encounter problems. If, at such times, we lose hope and become discouraged, we diminish our ability to face up to what challenges us. If, on the other hand, we remember that it is not just ourselves but everyone who has to undergo hardship, this more realistic perspective will increase our determination and capacity to overcome what troubles us. ~Dalai Lama