how you return

Everybody heals.

I find myself these days telling anyone who will listen to keep it simple.

Obviously, I need to consider this for myself.

What does that even mean, keep it simple?

Within the complexity of my mind’s interpretation of the moment, the great brilliant Aruni-narrative of- the-moment (which is often based in lack), there is a place of great stillness.

Within the swirl of all I think/I know/I am positive I SHOULD BE DOING, there is emptiness.

Okay, I understand this.  I can write about this. I can teach about this.  

And yet……

How do we live this?
How do we live into this?
How do we lean toward it?

How do we, within the intensity of the many, many intense moments of our day, gain access to that place of solace, that place that always exists, that place of homecoming?

How do we return home, you guys?

How do we get back?

First and foremost and forever and always, let’s remember the breath.

In its biologic brilliant, breath literally shifts gears metabolically for us, moving us out of the sympathetic nervous system (fight/flight/freeze), through the vagal nervous system, into the place of rest and digest, the parasympathetic nervous system.

The best intervention lives within us.

We just need to remember to breath.

Set your phone.

Find an app.

Every few hours, take a breath-break.

Practice accessing breath. 

Find a prompt.

At every red light, take three deep breaths.

At every subway stop, breath.

Weave that sacred pause into your day, literally prompted by reoccurring externals.

Mini-meditation-moments rock.


Second suggestion—find solace.

Practice going to that place that feels so wondrous.

So familiar.

So comfortable.

Whatever takes you there—and the range of possibilities is exquisite—like Rumi said, there are a hundred ways to kiss the earth

Cuddle with your cat

Take a hot bath

Meditate on the sunrise

Become one with your morning tea

Listen to the sound of the wind

Rest- yes, America, it counts—friggin’ REST.

Do it consistently.  Commit to it. Write yourself in your own schedule.

It counts.


And here’s the final suggestion, looking around, looking at your life:

Change it up.

Lighten the load.

Do one less thing today.

One less errand?

One less phone call?One less task?


After writing this today, I had a little time between clients.  I thought, oh!  I can go for a fast bike ride!  And I felt my excitement building.  As I thought it through, I realized the time crunch that ride would create. 

Realizing the cost of that ride, I decided not to go, to simplify, to lean away from my habitual pushing toward busy.

I stopped.

I decided

To sit on the porch,

To feel the sun on my face,

Eating a banana.

We expect too much of ourselves

We think we are super-beings.

Yes, we are wonderful-beings.

Yet, we are overworked, over-involved, over-responsible,

and probably over-committed.

Is anybody identifying yet?


There!  Three suggestions, like a good coach, STEPS, two internal and one external, to keep it simple today.


~Aruni Futuronsky

all that is invisible, indivisible, and wise….

inquiry for today~ when you’ve been spinning, the top slows like honey….

every experience has merit

Overcome any bitterness that may have come because you were not up to the magnitude of the pain entrusted to you.

Like the mother of the world who carries the pain of the world in her heart, you are sharing in a certain measure of that cosmic pain, and are called upon to meet it in joy instead of self-pity.

~Pir Vilayat Khan

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