On the spiritual path, there’s nothing to get, & everything to get rid of. Obviously, the first thing to let go of is trying to “get” love, & instead to give it. That’s the secret of the spiritual path. One has to give oneself wholeheartedly. If we want to be loved, we are looking for a support system. If we want to love, we are looking for spiritual growth. Love is the warmth of the heart, the connectedness, the protection, the caring, the concern, the embrace that comes from acceptance & understanding for oneself. Having practiced that, we are in a much better position to practice love toward others. We realize they are just as unlovable as we are, & they have just as many unwholesome thoughts. But that doesn’t matter. We are not judge & jury. When we relate to other people, we can let them just be & love them……Ayya Khema
there’s no hiding from an open heart….it radiates out….everyone can sense it…..feel it…benefit from it…..we love ourselves, then we share that love…..
this isn’t trite, banal, idealistic, or childish…this is truth, hard work….& profoundly elusive….
Hemingway got it right when he said that “love is the wanting to do things for.” Can I surrender to what is? This question allows us to do the one thing that can help free us from the domination of our fears: that is, to welcome them in & actually feel them. As we become more inwardly free from our our fears, the love & connection that are possible in relationships tend to flow through us more naturally. As our defenses are lowered, our heart opens, & there is a natural desire to give from the generosity of the heart. We discover that genuine happiness in relationships is not a product of having our expectations met or getting what we want but rather it is the consequence of freely giving in order to bring happiness to another…..Ezra Bayda