prayers tucked inside the complexity of paradox


A new coherence, a unified field inclusive of the paradoxes of life, are precisely what characterizes a second-half-of-life person. It feels like a return to simplicity after having learned from all the complexity. Finally, at last, one has lived long enough to see that ‘everything belongs,’ even the sad, absurd, and futile parts. In the second half of life, we can give our energy to making even the painful parts and the formally excluded parts belong to the now unified field- especially people who are different, and those who have never had a chance. If you have forgiven yourself for being imperfect and failing, you can now do it for just about everybody else. If you have not done it for yourself, I am afraid you will likely pass on your sadness, absurdity, judgment, and futility to others. Such people seem to have missed out on the joy and clarity of the first simplicity, perhaps avoided the interim complexity, and finally lost the great freedom and magnanimity of the second simplicity as well. We need to hold together all of the stages of life, and for some strange, wonderful reason, it all becomes quite ‘simple’ as we approach our later years. There is still darkness in the second half of life- in fact maybe even more. But there is now a changed capacity to hold it creatively and with less anxiety. There is a gravitas in the second half of life, but it is now held up by a much deeper lightness, or ‘okayness.’…….Richard Rohr

the messy bits can embolden us….

When we become conscious of the powerful karmic forces that dominate us, resulting in a seemingly endless repetition of conditioned patterns, we can begin to make a choice, in any given moment, to act otherwise- a choice that Vedic astrologer Chris Parrot phrases, ‘Karma or dharma?’ Dharma, in this sense, refers to the ‘virtuous path,’ or lawful duty and service, that is available to every human being who chooses to live a life directed toward her or his highest possibility. To act in accordance with dharma is to take actions that are resonant with the greater structure, or lawfulness, of a divine order or objective truth rather than being moved by the powerful and usually unconscious forces of our karma. It is up to us whether we take an active or passive role in the unraveling of our conditioned circumstances. ‘Blessed are you, who opens a gate in every moment, to enter in truth or tarry in hell,’ writes poet Leonard Cohen. The great freedom or truth that so many of us aspire to is only experienced in the moment, and those whom we consider liberated are simply individuals who are routinely able to intercept their conditioning through a choice to practice and act consciously in accordance with their dharma, moment after moment. This is easier said than done. These patterns are ancient, and their momentum carries such power that we may feel that something is not ‘right’ because we are so unaccustomed to acting and feeling differently from the way we are used to. If we are able to make the choice of dharma, we will experience a moment of true freedom. As E.J. Gold said, ‘At some point you need to decide to live your life so you don’t leave a trail of accidents behind you- one of which is yourself.’…..Mariana Caplan

and only achieved with balance of body and mind……if we live in the head and not the heart, the messages don’t shine through….we miss our life because we don’t even notice how out of sync we are… be awake in this world means lifting oneself to true awareness, where our pain and others’ pain is profound fodder for growth, not simply perpetuating a denial pattern….listen and honor and hold tenderly……

Pain is physical, suffering is mental. Suffering is due entirely to clinging or resisting. It is a sign of our unwillingness to move, to flow with life. Although all life has pain, a wise life is free of suffering. A wise person is friendly with the inevitable and does not suffer. Pain they know but it does not break them. If they can, they do what is possible to restore balance. If not, they let things take their course…..Nisargadatta

9 thoughts on “prayers tucked inside the complexity of paradox

  1. Like swimming in the current of a river, trying to cross to other side, one would plan to allow the current to assist, start upstream of the desired objective, in order to reach it safely, avoiding most rocks, and eddies. Awareness of self, and the conditions of the waters keeps the traveler safe. Karma can be looked at as attachment, clinging often unconsciously to old ways, trying to cross the river clinging to the branches of fallen trees, lost long ago to the river in a storm. “As above, so below, as below, so above” … Hermes Trismegistus

    • We spend much of our time avoiding discomfort……breathing it in consciously while not holding it is so tricky and requires a surrender that we aren’t used to…..this is why I find practices of mindfulness, breathing, and meditation so valuable….getting out of the head and into something bigger to hold it all….we keep going downstream don’t we…….so be it….got a raft g.f.s?

  2. The soul understands that nothing is ‘nothing’; everything matters and everything is connected. The bliss, the tears, the laughter. All. We cannot separate ourselves from that, no matter how hard we try. The wise soul wonders why anyone would ever want to. ~ Lovely as always, Bobbie

    • ohhh……sweet…….finding those ways to listen to the soul is what living a ‘full-on’ life really is about…..I say we relax more, look up more, dance more, allow more….wishing you a weekend filled with the promises of spring, enveloped in the wise soul…..

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