heartbreak & meaning


“I didn’t come here of my own accord.
Whoever brought me will have to come and take me home.”
I love these lines from Rumi as translated by Coleman Barks. They have come to me particularly in moments of great physical pain, in moments when I bump up against the limits of my own will, when I am frazzled and frayed at the edges, unable to even use the techniques I know will help, or contact someone who loves me and ask for help. But always there is this: something much larger than myself brought me here, gave me life, sustains my breath & my heartbeat. And that Sacred Wholeness that holds me can come and get me, can take me home to a still, calm, healing centre when I feel lost or overwhelmed. These lines are helpful when we are feeling like a little puddle on the floor. They are a way to say, with deep humility and faith, ‘Help me, please.’ And the Presence responds, reaches out in ways we could not have imagined and takes us home to the knowledge of the Heart at the centre of what we are. And then, we whisper, ‘Thank you.’…..Oriah Mountain Dreamer

such a simple and profound practice….to remember we are being held…..to fall into a bed of heart kindness…..to create well being by letting go of what does not serve…..to hold tightly to trust….may the broken become whole…..

Heartbreak is unpreventable; the natural outcome of caring for people and things over which we have no control, of holding in our affections those who inevitably move beyond our line of sight. Heartbreak begins the moment we are asked to let go but cannot, in other words, it colors and inhabits and magnifies each and every day; heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow through even the most average life. Heartbreak is our indication of sincerity: in a love relationship, in a work, in trying to learn a musical instrument, in the attempt to shape a better more generous self. Heartbreak is the beautifully helpless side of love and affection and is just as much an essence and emblem of care as the spiritual athlete’s quick but abstract ability to let go. Heartbreak has its own way of inhabiting time and its own beautiful and trying patience in coming and going. Heartbreak is inescapable; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong: an unrequited love, a shattered dream, a child lost before their time. Heartbreak, we hope, is something we hope we can avoid; something to guard against, a chasm to be carefully looked for and then walked around; the hope is to find a way to place our feet where the elemental forces of life will keep us in the manner to which we want to be accustomed and which will keep us from the losses that all other human beings have experienced without exception since the beginning of conscious time. But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way……..David Whyte

a cold, winter heart…..

Not until you surrender does the spiritual dimension become a living reality in your life. When you do, the energy you emanate and that then runs your life is of a much higher vibrational frequency than the mind energy that still runs the world………Eckhart Tolle

9 thoughts on “heartbreak & meaning

  1. Sometimes, it seems the most wonderful of all gifts is a soft place to fall. I’ve known times when the warmth of unmoving arms was a haven I longed for – a place where I could pretend nothing had changed – like a dream we dare not wake from. But for this, the soft that is our beginning, the start of all that comes after – the healing, the remembering, the holding together. I love this. ~ And you, Blue ~ Bobbie

    • I am particularly drawn to the words here from D. Whyte. It places me in that tender, soft space you speak of. Held yet completely done in. This okness is what we ‘do’ in this life, it is our touchstone. I sense your essence in these words Bobbie….

  2. heartbreak is a statement of living not existing within this moment…
    for if there was no pain….how would one know joy….
    though I do wish sometimes it was a brief statement…
    Your words are tugging at all the right threads these days….
    Thank you for the unraveling of thoughts (threads) to see another way to stitch
    the heart back together…
    Take Care…You Matter…

  3. What we call heartbreak is perhaps the most potent force in the world. They say Helen’s face launched 1000 ships, but was it not the heartbreak? And truly there are seasons in our live we wish we could shed, so that the tears or the heartbreak would leave us, yet where would that be? A lesson never learned, a feeling left undiscovered, a joy forgotten or never fulfilled … what about the words “the ride with you was worth the fall … didn’t we almost have it all” …Aspiration
    May your heartbreak be gentle reminders, and guide you to greatness …

    • As I get older, I am finding my heartaches to be beautiful little stones along the way, guiding me, creating a collage of a life well-lived…….sometimes they are heavy stones, sometimes they catch the light just right….may you pause this solstice day g.f.s…..

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