It’s a Buddhist ideal: upekkha, equanimity. These days we’d translate upekkha as “keep your cool.” Go through life in a relaxed way and without drama. Bear no malice, don’t get bogged down in sticky emotions. Respond to small irritations with tolerance and humor, and to tragedies with calm compassion. Wonderful. But how do we do it? Not by repressing your feelings, obviously. According to Buddhists, indifference is the enemy of upekkha. Indifference is usually based on a fear of getting hurt. It’s an armor with which you surround yourself, but it keeps you away from the flow of life. True equanimity is more like diving into that flow time after time, bravely and cheerfully, and coming out again. It’s accepting all the feelings that go with it with a serene smile. It means that you need to master the art of putting things into perspective. Everything changes all the time, it’s true. One thing that is crucial for developing equanimity is a friendly, tolerant attitude towards life, also known as compassion. Not just for others, but especially for yourself. People with a lot of self compassion fare a lot better. Self-compassion helps you to comfort yourself and to stay in the moment without being swept along by emotions. Staying in the moment, with a clear and open mind, kind to yourself and others: that is equanimity. If the ancient philosophers are to be believed, this is our true nature. ~Lisette Thooft
you came into your heart and then you realized you forgot your coat of arms…..how will you love wholly?
inquiry for today~ are you brave today? will you live it all, wild and hard today?
The only choice we have as we mature is how we inhabit our vulnerability, how we become larger and more courageous and more compassionate through our intimacy with disappearance, our choice is to inhabit vulnerability as generous citizens of loss, robustly and fully, or conversely, as misers and complainers, reluctant, and fearful, always at the gates of existence, but never bravely and completely attempting to enter, never wanting to risk ourselves, never walking fully through the door. ~David Whyte