the seductive spiral down


Compassion for ourselves gives rise to the power to transform resentment into forgiveness, hatred into friendliness, and fear into respect for all beings.

~Jack Kornfield

upside down and spinning fast into the spiraling lines that leave us exhausted and determined to fix everything…..

inquiry for today~  what if for right now, everything was radically ok, just as it is?

how it feels to be blue

When we become more insightful and compassionate about how we ourselves get hooked, we spontaneously feel more tenderness for the human race. Knowing our own confusion, we’re more willing and able to get our hands dirty and try to alleviate the confusion of others. If we don’t look into hope and fear, seeing a thought arise, seeing the chain reaction that follows- if we don’t train in sitting with that energy without getting snared by the drama, then we’re always going to be afraid.

So we start by simply looking into our own hearts and minds. Probably we start looking because we feel inadequate, or in pain, and want to clean up our act. But gradually our practice evolves. We start understanding that, just like us, other people also keep getting hooked by hope and fear.

As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we suffer from resolution. We don’t deserve our birthright, which is the middle way, an open state of mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity. To the degree that we’ve been avoiding uncertainty, we’re naturally going to have withdrawal symptoms- withdrawal from always thinking that there’s a problem and that someone, somewhere, needs to fix it.

When we feel lonely, when we feel hopeless, what we want to do is move to the right or left. We don’t want to sit and feel what we feel. We don’t want to go through the detox. Yet the middle way encourages us to do just that. It encourages us to awaken the bravery that exists in everyone without exception, including you and me.

~Pema Chodron

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