As human beings seeking to live meaningful lives, we hunger for some kind of structure, a set of practices that challenge us and help us to grow. Yet, if our rule is too rigorous, we can become suffocated by legalism. The paradox of the spiritual life is that it needs a healthy balance of structure and freedom to thrive. A Rule of life is essentially a commitment to specific practices you want to incorporate into your regular routine. A rule is meant to be balanced and not out of reach. It should not make you feel guilty for not living up to it, so aim for a rule of moderation. You do not have to write you once-and-for-all forever rule of life. What are the limitations of your life- what Rollo May called the riverbanks- that help nurture your creative expression, and what are the prisons that served to squelch it? As we slow down to listen for the sacred whispers in each moment, both within and without, and as we grow in our capacity to hold our own feelings, we also grow in our capacity to love the world…..Christina Vaulters Paintner
there is nothing quite so fine as the rhythm of the creative act, the inner wellspring of essential energy, vitality and generosity…..not really stemming from commitments yet better because of them….not really flawless, yet perfect as an ebb and flow….following, simply following the perfectly flawed and beautiful heart…..
By the sacred yes or sacred no I mean that affirmation or negation that comes from a deep place of wisdom or courage, even if it creates conflict or disagreement. The sacred yes is not willful or egocentric, but rather is willing and surrendered. The sacred no is not rebellion or refusal, but always the necessary protecting of boundaries….Richard Rohr
My own belief is that one regards oneself, if one is a serious writer, as an instrument for experiencing. Life- all of it- flows through this instrument and is distilled through it into works of art. How one lives as a private person is intimately bound into the work. And at some point, I believe one has to stop holding back for fear of alienating some imaginary reader or real relative or friend, and come out with personal truth. If we are to understand the human condition, and if we are to accept ourselves in all the complexity, self-doubt, extravagance of feeling, guilt, joy, the slow freeing of the self to its full capacity for action and creation, both as human being and artist, we have to know all we can about one another, and we have to be willing to go naked…..May Sarton