the good & the bad

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Your worth is not a product of your intelligence, your talent, your looks, or how much you have accomplished.Though much of who and what we are changes as we journey through life, our inherent worth remains constant. While the term self-worth is often used interchangeably with self-esteem, the two qualities are inherently different. Self-esteem is the measure of how you feel about yourself at a given moment in time. Your worth, however, is not a product of your intelligence, your talent, your looks, your good works, or how much you have accomplished. Rather it is immeasurable and unchanging manifestation of your eternal and infinite oneness with the universe. It represents the cornerstone of the dual foundations of optimism and self-belief. Your worth cannot be taken from you or damaged by life’s rigors, yet it can easily be forgotten or even actively ignored. By regularly acknowledging your self-worth, you can ensure that you never forget what an important, beloved, and special part of the universe you are……Daily Om

we launch into our defenses when our shadows are revealed……who decides how lovely we are? how well behaved? how good?…..these soul shadows hold the secrets to our deepest intimacies….our dreams that reveal who we really are…..may we not shy away from soul and shadows and self and epiphanies…..

We use the word ‘soul’ to denote our immanent human value. Unlike Self, which denotes a connection to transcendent spirituality, soul implies relatedness, complexity, and vulnerability. Frequently, we are forced as children to abandon the tender, authentic needs of our souls. Soul offers an approach to life as sacred, an orientation toward depth. It brings a quality of awareness that is reflective, imaginative, and downward, engaged with the dailiness of things. Today, through the democratization of spiritual teachings, more and more people appear to be remembering the Self, the divine essence. We sense that a limited identity that used to be comfortable is no longer enough; we feel a dissonance between who we are and who we could become. We are beginning to hear the whispering voice of the Self. conversely, the descent to soul, untouched by the rarified air of the Self, holds different risks: Like Hades, lord of the underworld, we can remain bound in the darkness of depression or overly attached to the ephemeral things of this world, ruled by fears of abandonment or feelings of isolation. Thus, when the Self, in its expansion to the heights, denies the needs of the soul, something essential is lost. And when the soul, in its extension to the depths, denies the needs of the Self, something essential is lost……Connie Zweig & Steve Wolf

irreconcilable knowing….

This being human is a guest-house.

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you out

for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

as a guide from beyond.

…..Rumi

4 thoughts on “the good & the bad

  1. All of this sings to me. We are not created equal in intelligence, beauty, talents, but we are of equal value……a whole different thing. And developing tenderness for our shadow frees us to discover the positive gifts it can bring us. I particularly like the phrase: a dissonance between who we are and who we could become. Once again paradox: knowing we are of infinite value frees us to face ourselves, love our whole selves, and seek ways to nurture the process of becoming the unique person we are created to be, not what anyone else thinks we should be or the person anyone else is. I love the saying : Be yourself, all the others are already taken.

    • agreed……so much time freed to be in the moment….living and loving….challenging to give up all of those constraints, but once we do, we realize what this life is really about….living and loving……blessings to you Eileen….

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