our delicate layers


I believe one has to stop holding back for fear of alienating some imaginary reader or real relative or friend and come out with personal truth. If we are to understand the human condition, and if we are to accept ourselves in all the complexity, self-doubt, extravagance of feeling, guilt, joy, the slow freeing of the self to its full capacity for action and creation, both as human being and as artist, we have to know all we can about each other, and we have to be willing to go naked.    ~May Sarton

understanding ourselves is more about not getting pigeon-holed…..about allowing for all of the quirky stuff……let it loose…….let it be unrecognizable from all of our buzz words…..live real, with love…..

“I take refuge in love.” As you offer these words, notice what they mean to you. Do you feel a sense of treasuring and valuing your family and friends? Does it bring up a yearning for more belonging? Allow a particular friend or loved one to come to mind, and as you sense that person’s goodness and dearness, notice the response of your heart. Is there warmth? Tenderness? Openness? Now let go of any idea of “other,” and open directly to the loving itself. Notice what happens as you relax and be that loving. What happens as you fully inhabit this refuge of love? What happens as you rest your heart in what is true?

You can “take refuge” in this way as part of your regular meditation practice, or at any time on its own. If you approach this practice each time with freshness and curiosity, it will continue to reveal the profound depths of your being. Sometimes you may spend many minutes reflecting on each refuge, and at other times, just a brief contact will awaken you to an open and tender presence.  ~Tara Brach

what is mindful anyway?

I recommended that people become more nonconformist and even eccentric, because when you live from the soul you are less normal than if you adjust to society and have a strong ego.  I reminded them of Plato’s idea that there are ways to be slightly mad that can be creative: love, contemplation, making art, and being seriously intuitive. I emphasized certain gifts of soul: being a real individual, having a capacity for connection and love, living intimately, having a vision, being a real persona and enjoying depth, and creating from a deep place within you. Soul is also at home amid variety and diversity. It doesn’t aspire to things like wholeness, unity, and integration. It speaks in dreams and a generally poetic style of  speech. It appears best in stories and meandering conversations ad communing with nature.   ~Thomas Moore



2 thoughts on “our delicate layers

  1. This post challenges me. I have spent most of my life being a chameleon. Adjusting my personality to those around me. As I have aged, I’ve become freer to be my slightly weird, but hopefully more loving self. But, there are areas where I still feel awkward about who I am. Worth exploring right now, I think. Thanks.

    • awkward…..great word for all of the questioning and heartfelt vulnerability…..I think this is a beautiful sign of living well and authentically and growing:)

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s