All of a sudden she began to whistle. By all of a sudden
I mean that for more than thirty years she had not
whistled. It was thrilling. At first I wondered, who was
in the house, what stranger? I was upstairs reading, and
she was downstairs. As from the throat of a wild and
cheerful bird, not caught but visiting, the sounds war-
bled and slid and doubled back and larked and soared.
Finally I said, Is that you? Is that you whistling? Yes, she
said. I used to whistle, a long time ago. Now I see I can
still whistle. And cadence after cadence she strolled
through the house, whistling.
I know her so well, I think. I thought. Elbow and an-
kle. Mood and desire. Anguish and frolic. Anger too.
And the devotions. And for all that, do we even begin
to know each other? Who is this I’ve been living with
for thirty years?
This clear, dark, lovely whistler?
these ideals of love and time wrap around like vines, entwining us…..
inquiry for today~ reevaluate. relive. renew. recommit. revitalize. but not so quickly. more like a drift into the nuance of your life.
Each of our lives is a living, breathing ecosystem with multiple parts and priorities. We are dynamic and evolving beings that require different types of activity, care, systems and routines depending on a myriad circumstances.
If we do not consistently practice setting boundaries, trust with ourselves and with our loved ones will erode over time. For love without boundaries is not love at all.
Without frequent reflection and honoring of what our true values are and how to conduct our lives rooted in these values, the silent creep kicks in and we find ourselves going through the motions of everyday life without a lot of satisfaction or gratitude.
It’s in the nitty gritty details of our everyday lives where what matters to us most has the potential to either thrive or to crumble. And what I have found over the years is that if I do not consistently re-orient myself to my true values, life has a funny way of slipping in the priorities and values of other people and the culture at large, eating away at my own fulfillment and often causing quite a bit of confusion along the way.
In other words, the more clear and respectful you can be of yourself, your time and your priorities, the more space you will have to be in the flow and to follow your instincts when it comes to new opportunities, work, play, community, family and friends.