“It is also good to love: because love is difficult. For one human being to love another human being: that is perhaps the most difficult task that has been entrusted to us, the ultimate task, the final test and proof, the work for which all other work is merely preparation…. Loving does not at first mean merging, surrendering, and uniting with another person (for what would a union be of two people who are unclarified, unfinished, and still incoherent?), it is a high inducement for the individual to ripen, to become something in himself, to become world, to become world in himself for the sake of another person; it is a great, demanding claim on him, something that chooses him and calls him to vast distances… Merging and surrendering and every kind of communion is not for them (who must still, for a long, long time, save and gather themselves); it is the ultimate, is perhaps that for which human lives are as yet barely large enough.” ~Rilke
how can we let the tiny things go? and then we’re expected to let go of our beloveds?
inquiry for today~ it’s a moment of remembrance when we become again……
Whether our transforming event is dramatic or subtle, once our gift is exposed, it’s our job to keep it in the open, though no one can stay permanently awake. We take turns being clouded and clear. Today I might be awake for a time, then trip and fall, while you’re awake longer. While you’re awake, you’re the teacher. Tomorrow, you might shut down. You might get something in your heart’s eye, and you’ll be squinting, unable to quite keep it open. That day, I might be clear, and I’ll be the teacher.
No one can avoid the turbulence of being alive. Just as everything in the natural world faces friction and erosion, human beings face the erosion of experience called suffering. There’s no escaping this. Though being awake and wholehearted can help us move through difficulty and suffering.
From an early age, we’re taught to sort, prioritize, and choose what’s most important as a way to negotiate difficulty. Yet while sorting, prioritizing, and choosing can help us get through life, they don’t always help us retrieve meaning from life. Over the years, I’ve been continually broken open beyond what I thought possible. And with a larger, more open heart, I’ve been challenged to let things in, rather than sort them out, and to let what I experience mix into a potent synergy of life’s energies. Drinking from that synergy, I am renewed. ~Mark Nepo