to linger, to know


Take a few deep, slow breaths. Close your eyes, if this feels good and helpful to you. Adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity. Without judgment or any attempt to change anything, simply notice. Start with your physical sensations. Become aware of how your body feels on your chair or how your feet rest on the earth. Notice sensations of movement and stillness: the breeze, the quiet stability of your hips. Next, gently observe the emotions moving through you. How do these feelings feel in your body? Allow yourself to simply be aware of these emotions and how they feel in your body. Also notice any thoughts, images, memories, or self-talk. Like clouds floating through the sky of your mind, simply notice them. No need to cling to them or push them away- simply acknowledge them. As you scan your body, emotions, and mind, you may like to ask yourself if there’s anything you’d like to remove from or add to your situation. Come home to your body, here. Follow your breath. This isn’t about perfecting or even changing anything= it is simply about being aware.

~Bari Tessler

you aren’t who you think you are……and all of those roles of sweetness and hype and starry-eyed hopes…..where are they now?

inquiry for today~   may you let them go oh so gently……so softly….no hurry……allow them to linger as long as you need them…..

bias in trust

We humans tend to think we are rational most of the time. It’s that exact blind spot that is most in our way. Our blind spots are created through our unwillingness to question the fixed ideas and assumptions that we hold about ourselves, others, and the world around us. Some of the most problematic blind spots, however, are created and supported by the tiniest and most innocent of biases and moments, combining to form ideas and stories that keep confirming themselves and feeling believable.

Mental shortcuts help us simplify things as we navigate the complexities and unknowns of life. But they hinder us when they cause us to gloss over or misperceive complexities that might actually require our attention, and that’s bound to go wrong sometimes. Questioning biases and opening to a larger, more nuanced story doesn’t have to destabilize us. Rather, it can help us make wiser, more informed decisions and be more compassionate and understanding.

It takes practice and experience to trust yourself enough to open to what you don’t know, and realize that it’s safe and important to do so. Hacking these biases sets you up for a different autopilot: It opens you to the unknown, and in doing so, you move the arrow from blindness to mindfulness.

~Kelly Boys

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