The reality of our lives is that they are fragile. Everything changes, and everything goes, and if we have experienced love in any of its forms, this reality is bound to break our heart. The First Noble Truth reminds us that connections, in all its joy and beauty, is also a path to suffering. When we love anyone or anything within the backdrop of impermanence, we are bound to have our hearts broken. This is unavoidable. This also doesn’t have to be a problem. As much as connection inevitably leads to suffering, suffering can also lead us to connection. At some point we realize that we are not alone in this. That realization can be a catalyzing force, leading us to extend a helping hand to our neighbors. In heartbreak there is a tremendous opportunity to be broken open into a more expansive sense of empathy, appreciation, and love.
This beautiful line of poetry, from Naomi Shihab Nye, reminds us that when we demonize our suffering, it never has the chance to show us its profound wisdom, which is tenderness, empathy, and kindness: “Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside, you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.”
when we can’t be anyplace other than where we are….
inquiry for today~ in the essence of true suffering…..be there and be real and be heart-full……..
Within this frail body
Lies, visible, like pure wine
-in a glass. ”