Over the years I have seen the power of taking an unconditional relationship to life. I am surprised to have found a sort of willingness to show up for whatever life may offer and meet with it rather than wishing to edit and change the inevitable. Many of my patients also seem to have found their way to this viewpoint on life.
When people begin to take such an attitude they seem to become intensely alive, intensely present. Their losses and suffering have not caused them to reject life, have not cast them into a place of resentment, victimization, or bitterness. As a friend with HIV/AIDS puts it, “I have let go of my preferences and am living with an intense awareness of the miracle fo the moment.” Or in the words of another patient, “When you are walking on thin ice, you might as well dance.”
From such people I have learned a new definition of the word “joy.” I had thought joy to be rather synonymous with happiness, but it seems now to be far less vulnerable than happiness. Joy seems to be a part of an unconditional wish to live, not holding back because life may not meet our preferences and expectations. Joy seems to be a function of the willingness to accept the whole and to show up to meet with whatever is there. I has kind of invincibility that attachment to any particular outcome would deny us.
~Rachel Naomi Remen
why does one person live and another only survives?
inquiry for today~ this extraordinary way toward living is a calling in and of itself……
One must be thrust out of a finished cycle in live, and that leap is the most difficult to make- to part with one’s faith, one’s love, when one would prefer to renew the faith and recreate the passion.