the dialectics of deep grace


Again trapped

chained by

his love

all struggle

to escape



an ocean

with invisible



no shores.

If you

are wise

you will

not swim

in it.

To reach

the end

of love

you must

suffer many


and think

it good,

drink poison

and find

it sweet.

I acted

like a

wild horse

not knowing:

to struggle

draws the

noose tighter.

Rabi’ah Bent Ka’b

these fiery moments hasten us to soften…’s not really about being lost…it’s about not abandoning ourselves…..coming to the center of our inner work can make us want to run away….but our deepest sense of being is never lost, abandoned or destroyed……touching this potentiates insight….

The key factor in all relationships, whether in relation to our economy, to our lover, or to ourselves, is how moments of disconnection are handled. When we can still our reactivity, we can see the logic behind our choices, and we also have space enough in our hearts and minds to tolerate disconnection, aloneness, anger, or abandonment. This tolerance is essential for relational attunement. The movement of the waves, the movement of the body in this is the truth of transience. This life is precious, as is every dawn, every breath. What is your life about? This wisdom connects us back with our heart…..Michael Stone

a compelling need to look up…..

Rather than living a life of resistance and trying to disprove our basic situation of impermanence and change, we could contact the fundamental ambiguity and welcome it. But we don’t have to close down when we feel groundlessness. Instead, we can turn toward it and say, ‘This is what freedom from fixed mind feels like. This is what freedom from closed-heartedness feels like. This is what unbiased, unfettered goodness feels like. Maybe I’ll get curious and see if I can go beyond my resistance and experience the purity of goodness.’……Pema Chodron

5 thoughts on “the dialectics of deep grace

  1. I once had a teacher who said Ohm’s Law was the only true law in electricity / electronics. That resistance is inversely proportional to current. In practical / emotional terms (human currents) the more we resist something the greater the emotional response becomes. I’ve learned that laws are universal, it is just context that changes. No we should not give up on experience, we should give up resisting experience, we the become ‘super conductors” no resistance, no heat, no losses in the circuit … The greatest love of all … Sending power for your day ….

    • I think most of us have tasted that amazing freedom of letting go of tight emotions and fear and pain…..sustaining the open heart isn’t really the goal I don’t think….it’s more a matter of being aware of it…..then we understand these universal laws as an interconnected tuning-in….a wave of resistance and then letting go….such a beautiful and magical science….thanks for sharing your tuned-in-ness g.f.s…..

  2. I’ve heard that nothing is more dangerous to the spirit than a secure future. The sou’s core of our living spirit is our passion for the new ~ the unknown. The sweetest life comes from our encounters with new experiences ~ in leaning into the fire rather than away from it. There is no greater bliss than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun. May today offer you a glimpse beyond the flame. ~ Love, Bobbie

    • I so agree…..meeting my edge is always like meeting myself again….I have had so many of these moments of fire spinning….this is where gratitude informs my life…..just knowing I can always choose a sweeter heart space…..I love how you say that passion is that leaning in……sending you dreams of tribal poi (the fire dance) spinning round, dear Bobbie…..

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