what does it mean to break?

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Before you send the heartbreak away – before you process it, dissolve it into space, convert it to joy, and spin away from it in shame and blame – turn toward it and see. Go slow. Breathe into it. Provide safe passage for the heartbroken one that has been looking for you for so long.

Perhaps at a much earlier time, with a star or a tree or the water as your witness, you made a prayer of wholeness. The response to that prayer has come, but not in the way you expected. It has arrived by way of the shattering of an old dream, the dream of how you thought it would all turn out. While this dream is painful, it is alive, sacred, and holy.

No, heartbreak and disappointment are not easy. As two of the fierce emanations of integration, they will throw you off at times. They will pull the rug out from under you and remind you of how open it really is here, of how anything could happen, and of how unresolvable the activity of love truly is.

There is nothing wrong with you. These ancient feelings and emotions are not enemies working against you. They are not evidence of your failure, or that you have fallen from the path. They are the path. But they are not the path you thought. They are of the unknown and seeded with creativity.

They are relentless in a way, the forms of love, but will never give up, they will never stop looking for you and calling you home.

~Matt Licata

when did we forget that it’s not supposed to be easy? that our hearts were meant to tell stories?

inquiry for today~  can you sit in the seat of tender and brittle pain? what seeps in? what calls us to be more merciful with our own hearts?


Heartbreak is how we mature; yet we use the word heartbreak as if it only occurs when things have gone wrong: an unrequited love, a shattered dream, a child lost before their time. Heartbreak, we hope, is something we hope we can avoid; something to guard against, a chasm to be carefully looked for and then walked around; the hope is to find a way to place our feet where the elemental forces of life will keep us in the manner to which we want to be accustomed and which will keep us from the losses that all other human beings have experienced without exception since the beginning of conscious time. But heartbreak may be the very essence of being human, of being on the journey from here to there, and of coming to care deeply for what we find along the way.

If heartbreak is inevitable and inescapable, it might be asking us to look for it and make friends with it, to see it as our constant and instructive companion, and even perhaps, in the depth of its impact as well as in its hindsight, to see it as its own reward. Heartbreak asks us not to look for an alternative path, because there is no alternative path. It is a deeper introduction to what we love and have loved, an inescapable and often beautiful question, something or someone who has been with us all along, asking us to be ready for the last letting go.

~David Whyte

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